Sometimes I wonder if I love fall so much because it's the visual embodiment of all the things that, psychologically, I should be doing a better job of maintaining. Every year, nature takes stock and detoxes, shedding its skin in the loveliest, most wondrous of ways. It's a lesson to be learned, and certainly one …
Because Solange.
Okay, dear Reader, you know I cut my hair. Well, I cut it again. And again. After the first cut, I went back to my stylist and asked for another cut, to even things out, and to color it, as well, since the gray hairs were like all these changes are making us nervous so …
it had to happen.
December 2012: after eight months of waiting and impatiently wearing two different hair textures on my head (the relaxed ends and the growing, textured, natural roots), I walked into a salon and big chopped my hair. The smile on my face below should tell you how I felt about my decision. I felt free. At …
Le 40 is Le Terrifying and I Can’t Understand Why.
Y'all. Why am I so scurred about turning 40???? A bit of background: growing up, no age ever really scared me off. I ached to be 12. I couldn't wait to be 16. 21 was super cool. 25? Give me 5. And if you've read any of my past posts, you know about the wonder, …
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Fabu Fashion Monday: Wedding Fro/Flow
Hey y'all. I had the pleasure of attending the nuptials of two dear friends this past weekend and wanted to share what I wore, what I did with Her (my hair, as you know), and other tings. Let's, shall we? What I wore: So I suffer from this problem I'd like to call "forgets that …
World. Class. Chocolate.
Danai and Lupita. Okoye and Nakia. Africa and Africa. New Muse and Still Muse. World Class Chocolate and World Class Chocolate. When I was a little growing brown girl, I saw women of color in my home, in my community, among my relatives. But I didn't realize that representation outside of that nexus was important …
“when you gonna make up your mind?”
Confession: I lost a bit of myself in 2017. I think it happens to every woman. Here and there, pieces of who we are, good pieces, at that, begin to crumble at our feet. The sources of that quiet, subtle destruction are many. Discouragement, lack of confidence, heartbreak, loss, pain, unhappiness--so, so many things. Womanhood …
The Basics.
In this shifting world of different looks and makeup and styles and products (and we'll have a separate post on all the makeup experimenting I've been doing lately), sometimes all you need is simple. And for me, this means pulling out the tried-and-true, the blueprint, the top of the heap: Ruby Woo. I've discussed my …
Unrelenting Excitement. (And Other Things.)
I think that best describes how I felt when I heard that my favorite royal Ginger, Prince Harry, had become engaged to his sweetheart, actress Meghan Markle. I won't even link to any articles about this news; if it's the first time you're hearing about this engagement, we just...we have nothing to say to each …
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when they met.
If you haven't heard, a total solar eclipse took place yesterday, August 21. Pretty historical stuff. I was excited beyond words, not necessarily because of the historicity of it or the celestial phenomenon, per se. I, This Square Peg, a writer of words and a purveyor of poetry, have used the moon as an allegorical …
This Square Peg. 