Headwraps used to terrify me. For one thing, this African lady didn’t inherit the ability to tie them—to the shame of my mother—so I avoided them. I also wondered how I could pull them off in a professional setting (because, sadly, women of color have to think about these things), so I left them alone.
Enter global pineapples pandemics and pre-tied headwraps.
It’ll be a headwrap year for me, folks. Hair will be twisted up underneath as we continue to grow out the strands and many more wraps will join my growing array of colors and styles.
Eight years ago today, I drove to a salon in Maryland and told the stylist to commence with le big chop. Best decision ever. Several months before, I had decided that I was done with relaxers and straightening my hair. I’d place my fingers in my roots and feel the thick, coily texture and no longer held a desire to straighten those strands. I wanted to see the hair my mother saw when I was a child.
It continues to remain a journey. I’ve big chopped more than once, I’ve grown it out, I’ve been blonde, a redhead, all colors in between, I’ve been bald, so on and so forth. I’ve loved every minute of it. Can’t draw to save my life, but my hair has been the best artistic canvas this gal could ask for.
Favorite natural styles: Twistouts and Bantu knot-outs are my tried and true
Favorite protective styles: Senegalese twists, box braids, any crochet style
Favorite hair color: Brownish-red was pretty cool but my honey blonde phase gave me life
Favorite products: The Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus collection has never let me down. I use most of their products. A recent fave is Camille Rose products (their twisting butter is heaven). By the way, if you’re a naturalista, your bathroom is a CVS. Such is the journey to find what works well for your hair. Eight years later, I’ve solidified a lot of those things and enjoy my staples.
Favorite Naturalistas: these are content creators that have helped me throughout the years to understand styling, methods, and natural hair care. Whitney White, Maeling Murphy, My Natural Sistas, Taren Guy, and countless others stand out. You’ll see many of them here.
Here’s to commemorating whatever makes us happy and reminds us of happy. Onwards and curlwards, dear reader…
Coming back at ya with another fashion throwback to what I wore to our annual three-day religious convention. This time, we’re going back to 2018. And no surprise: my styles, again, had a theme. This time, I wanted to solely wear dresses. This was July in Texas and although we’d be inside, I just wanted to be comfortable and easy breezy.
1. Look at my bald head! I miss the dome. Okay, keep it moving before a field of ✂️s pop into my head.
2. The first two dresses came from Amazon. I think this was the first time I bought clothes beyond casual, home stuff from Amazon and I have nothing but great things to say. Awesome finds; reading the comments is such a help. Dress #3 came from ASOS. Chic, no? Loved the mixing of patterns, the styling, the shape.
Here’s how the Le Fro is doing as of this past weekend, in my continuing efforts to grow out my hair and not eye the ✂️:
Curls galore, no? We love to see it. And this is actually a two-day wash-and-go courtesy of my stylist and good friend, who provided me with a nice, socially distanced wash/condition/much-needed trim. I’m always amazed by WAGs. I tend to leave WAGs to the experts, such as my stylist, because your Square Peg has no skills when it comes to that. I’ve done them, it takes forever (and not as “go” as the term implies), so yeah. Queen Twistout over here. But it’s always nice to simply see my natural coils and curls without manipulation.
What are my frowth goals? Big hair, y’all. I want big hair and I want to go as far as I can without, again, heading for the ✂️.
All the way back in 2019–why does last year seem so long ago??—I attended a three-day religious convention that was all kinds of invigorating and refreshing. I really miss gathering together. Safety first, however. Anyway, planning what to wear to a special event during a Lone Star summer is always interesting. The good thing was that the event location was an indoor conference center so the AC would be blasting and I didn’t have to consider the pools of sweat factor.
Here’s where I’ll tell you that I realized some time ago that I’m a thematic dresser. Hardly a surprise; my life is filled with plot lines and themes, why not what I choose to wear? Perhaps it’s dresses only, or a particular color scheme or pattern, etc. So, while wondering how to combine some new pieces with what was in my closet, I decided that skirts would be my theme.
1. All my skirts came from Ross. By now, you know that Ross is my go-to spot for stylish clothes for awesome low prices.
2. My shoes clearly have a theme, too. See if you can find it.
Last summer seems like ages ago. Being with my friends and spiritual family hasn’t changed though, thanks to Zoom and that virtual life. Nevertheless, I can’t wait to feel the hugs and see the smiles of these people I love so dearly.
It’s the constant back and forth: shall I keep growing out my hair? Or shall I chop it off (again)? Well, you’re going to help me make that decision, dear reader. There’s a poll after the photos below. Choose accordingly, won’t you?
In 2004, I visited dear friends who lived in Pontarlier, France. Since Pontarlier is located close to the Swiss border, my friend Clara advised that I fly to Geneva, Switzerland, and she would pick me up from there. Yes, thoughts of Switzerland danced in my 24 year-old head.
It was the most beautiful place I had ever seen.
A few days after arriving and settling in, we drove back to Geneva and spent the better part of the day there. Here are some photos of that day.
• Those photos (and all the photos from that trip) were taken with a disposable camera, after which I developed the film at our local Walmart. If all those words seem foreign to you, this is how photography happened pre-smartphone.
• Switzerland sparkled. It gleamed. I felt like I was walking inside a jewel.
• I want to go back.
One of the best trips I’ve taken. Do you have memorable places you’ve visited? Pretty sure you do; feel free to share them in the comments.